I didn't think you were being derogatory. I think I made the point well enough above that even though you were being well intentioned but it could be read by others differently.
I'm sure there are a lot of reasons that women or any other group don't feel welcome/are under represented in lots of fields/groups/professions. As someone who hasn't had to experience that much in my life it can be sometimes hard to see how what I say or do impacts others who have a different experience than me.
Anyway, thanks for hearing, hopefully someone other than me appreciates it!